Non-Verbal Communication Techniques That Work

7 years ago, I hosted a TED Talk that got 5.8M views. Funnily enough, 5 years prior, we analyzed 1,000+ hours of them trying to answer 1 question: Why do some TED Talks go viral, while others don't? 1 thing CLEARLY stood out: Hand gestures. I'm not kidding. When we compared the most viewed TED Talks to the least viewed ones, the top performers used almost TWICE as many hand gestures (465 vs 272 in an 18-minute talk). Why? Because it's evolutionary. When cavemen encountered strangers, the first place they looked was the hands - friend or foe? Our brains are still wired this way. When we can't see someone's hands, our brain gets uncomfortable because we can't see intention. This is just one of the many ways that the best TEDTalkers stood out. And one of the many ways that humans are contagious. We're constantly sending and receiving signals: • Nonverbally: Our facial expressions trigger the same emotions in others (try making a genuine smile right now - feel better?). • Verbally: Asking "working on anything exciting?" instead of "been busy lately?" triggers dopamine in the brain, making you more memorable. • Emotionally: Saying "I'm excited" instead of "I'm nervous" before a task improved performance by 27% in research studies. The most viewed TED speakers are masters at infecting their audience with confidence through their nonverbal, verbal, and emotional signals. Next time you give a presentation or even have a coffee chat, think about how you're "infecting" others. • Are you smiling authentically?  • Are your hands visible and expressive?  • Are your questions triggering excitement?  • Are you reframing nervousness as excitement? Small shifts can completely change how people respond to you. The most powerful thing I've learned in 15+ years of human behavior research: Confidence isn't just something you feel - it's something you can intentionally spread. BTW I DID make sure to use over 400 hand gestures in my TEDx London Talk 🖐️ PS: Check out the link to my talk in the comments section.

You might be saying all the right things. But is your body language telling a different story? 🚨 The truth is, words only go so far. Your nonverbal cues can make or break your workplace image. Here are 7 subtle body language mistakes that might be holding you back (and how to fix them): 1/ Avoiding eye contact. ↳ Looking away signals insecurity or disinterest. → Maintain eye contact to show confidence and focus. 2/ Slouching or poor posture. ↳ Hunching makes you look tired or disengaged. → Sit upright to project confidence and professionalism. 3/ Crossing your arms. ↳ It signals defensiveness or being closed off. → Keep arms relaxed to appear open and approachable. 4/ Excessive fidgeting. ↳ Restless movements show nervousness or impatience. → Use controlled gestures to appear calm and composed. 5/ Weak or overly firm handshake. ↳ A weak grip feels unconfident; too firm seems aggressive. → Aim for a steady grip with eye contact and a smile. 6/ Failure to smile. ↳ A neutral face makes you seem unapproachable. → Smile naturally to appear warm and engaging. 7/ Facing away from others when speaking. ↳ Turning away suggests disinterest or disrespect. → Face people directly to show engagement and respect. 🚨 Final Thought: Body language speaks louder than words. Master these habits to project confidence, approachability, and professionalism. Which of these habits do you need to work on most? Let me know in the comments! 👇 ♻️ Follow César Solís and reshare to help others. 📌 Save this post for future reference!⁣⁣⁣⁣

Your Body Speaks Before You Do—Mastering First Impressions in 7 Seconds ⏳ People decide who you are within the first 7 seconds of meeting you—before you even say a word. We all want to come across as confident, charismatic, and engaging, but the real secret? It’s all in your body language. I recently listened to an incredible episode of The Diary of a CEO with Steven Bartlett featuring Vanessa Van Edwards a behavioral investigator who studies human connection. Vanessa, a self-proclaimed “recovering awkward person” (which I deeply relate to), unpacks the science behind how people perceive us—and I couldn’t stop taking notes. Body Language Wasn’t Something I Was Taught. Like many children of Asian immigrants, I was raised to make myself smaller—sitting quietly, keeping my hands in my lap, and lowering my gaze out of respect. Eye contact wasn’t a sign of confidence but of defiance. So when I stepped into the professional world, I constantly second-guessed my social cues: Am I making too much eye contact? Where do I put my hands when I talk? Am I coming off as engaged or just awkward? Hug or no hug? Learning the unspoken rules of communication has been a journey, and I wish I had known earlier how small shifts in body language could make such a big impact. Key Takeaways from the Episode ✅ Success is contagious – The people around you shape your confidence and mindset. ✅ Use hand gestures while speaking – It makes you more engaging and credible. ✅ The power of the slow nod – Three slow nods while someone is talking makes them feel truly heard. ✅ Smile with your eyes (Duchenne smile) – A genuine smile that reaches your eyes boosts likability. ✅ Maintain eye contact 50-60% of the time – Enough to show confidence without being intense. ✅ Lower your pitch, steady your tone – Instantly makes you sound more confident. ✅ Subtle mirroring builds connection – Matching the body language of the person you’re speaking with strengthens rapport. ✅ Use light, natural touches – A gentle touch on the shoulder or elbow (or even a slight vocal shift or lean-in) helps build connection; however, don't talk on the back or head. ✅ Know your RBF (resting bored face) – What does your neutral expression communicate? Does it unintentionally look bored, sad, or unapproachable? Adjust accordingly. ✅ Respect cultural differences – Personal space and social norms vary across cultures. This episode is packed with game-changing insights! 🎙️ Listen to the full conversation here: https://lnkd.in/gkr4Myri And a huge thank you to Jennifer B. Kong for sharing 🙌 💬 What’s one body language tip that has helped you feel more confident? Drop it below! 👇